The wedding ceremony is done, the celebrations are completed, and the couple is ready to finally head to their dream honeymoon. It is their first night of married life together, so the honeymoon has unique implications for the couple. It marks the beginning of the couple’s journey together and evokes memories that will remain with them forever.
For most couples, the honeymoon is a moment to rest, relax and celebrate their union. The post But for many, it is also the time to consummate their marriage and also indulge in some intimate moments. In the Indian context, this is what we would refer to as the ‘suhaag raat’ or the pitch of the honeymoon and is a matter of excitement, anticipation and sometimes anxiety for the new couple.
In our culture, ‘ suhaag raat’ is shown special respect. It’s supposed to be the most romantic, and the most intimate, night of a couple’s life. All of which is entirely secret, and performed just for them as a couple. Although there are no hard and fast rules regarding how the first night should be, it is typically a blend of tradition, romance and passion.
Most couples are worn out following the wedding festivities and require a while to recuperate before they depart on honeymoon. That is why it is important to plan and space out so that you can relax and enjoy the time. Also, eat a light dinner a little early to avoid heaviness and bloating.
After arriving at their honeymoon destination, the couple can begin preparing for their special night. On the other hand, the bride is dressed in her new outfit, with her hands filled with mehndi, which is believed to bring good luck and she is covered with her traditional jewelry. On the other hand, the groom can wear a traditional sherwani or a suit that complements her outfit.
At the restaurant, the two get the chance to feel each other out (in more ways than one) as the night goes on. You must additionally share and regard each others borders. It’s also important to keep in mind that the first night might not be perfect and that’s OK. The first night, just the beginning of, what takes time, to establish a strong and intimate relationship.
The ’suhaag raat’ does not have physical aspect only, but it is also a moment when the couple can connect emotionally and spiritually. They can tell one another their dreams, fears and hopes for the future. So this is a time to deepen their love and commitment.
A second custom related to the first night is the ‘kangan rasam.’ During this ritual, the groom will take the bride’s bangles off and replace them with fresh ones. It is a sign that a new phase in a woman’s life is beginning, and it is auspicious.”
Thus, the ‘suhaag raat’ makes for an absolutely alluring and important phase of a couple’s married life. Overwhelming, as the sweetness of the occasion is never forgotten, and it helps shape their relationship. Hence you newly weds, have a fabulous night and relish the fact that this is just the beginning of a journey together.